Martinis, missed connections and les eggs The Oakland bar closure I never wanted to cover

Friends & Family, an acclaimed queer bar and restaurant in Oakland, will close on December 30 due to financial difficulties. Despite its recognition as a James Beard semi-finalist in 2022 and being named one of the best bars in the country, the establishment struggled with unpredictable foot traffic and rising operating costs. The bar served as a crucial gathering place for the local LGBTQ+ community, offering a welcoming environment for all patrons, regardless of their sexual orientation. Its closure reflects a broader trend of declining safe spaces for queer women, with only 38 lesbian bars left across the United States. Owner Blake Cole hopes to collaborate with Chef Gaby Maeda on a new concept in the future, raising hopes that the beloved menu might return.

The impact of Friends & Family's closure resonates deeply with its regulars, who cherished the intimate setting for everything from casual meet-ups to significant life moments. The bar's unique offerings, such as their signature les eggs, created a culinary experience that will be sorely missed. This loss emphasizes the urgent need for supportive spaces within the community.